Dating again after 40
See, it's so not that easy/difficult : ) I am confused.
I hit 40, I seem to have problems judging ages, most people have me from anywhere from 25-35.
I did it for about 30 years and I experienced all the hurt, confusion, frustration, hopelessness, boredom, and exhaustion that comes with it. There are about 45 million single men over the age of 35 in the United States, about 7 million in Britain and 2 million in Australia. And before you say…but, Bobbi, these aren’t quality men. If you’re like I used to be as a single gal, it’s because it gives you permission to stay the same and stay single. Unless he spits when he talks, smells, or is drunk; give him a chance.
As a Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40, I conducted a survey and asked women to tell me their biggest dating challenge as a woman in her 40s, 50s and beyond. You are merely a victim of nasty and sad circumstance, rather than a strong, smart woman in charge of her life. Quickly dismissing men is most often about self-protection and reliving past experiences in the present.
So what’s the thing about dating that bothers you most? All the good ones are taken…check this out: If you live anywhere near a major metro area, and are looking for a man over 40, 5’8” or taller, college educated, non-smoking, making a higher than median income…statistics say that there are over 2000 of these guys within 20 miles of you looking for love online. As long as you let yourself believe that your lack of connection with a good man is about T-H-E-M…then you don’t have to take responsibility. DO NOT tell me that in the first 10 minutes of meeting a man you can know that he is a potential suitor or life partner. Quick judgments are often more about you than the man sitting in front of you.I recently relocated to Ohio and joined a club, enrolled in grad classes, go to the park and library constantly, and to the family friendly music and art activities (things I like) and I am getting to meet people. Like Terri said, 40s men (many) are in their mid crisis; AND 20 and 30 somethings want to try an make us cougars.I just need to go to the next step and nurture those "acquaintances". Well, it's all about what YOU like in the end: younger or older, but compatible!I am back at college, meet a lot of people too young, also seem to be on a bounce from being gay (most of my relationships till 27 were with women though. I am ready todo dating with women, but maybe its innocent type dating, cinema, pizza etc.yet everyone has grown up but me, and those into that sort of thing are too young.