Man dating woman with kids
I’m young and I want to have fun, out in the world, not be tied down to someone’s living room while her kid sleeps in the bedroom. I admire my friend for being a stand-up guy and taking care of his son, so my opinion of a woman doing the same … Also, her ex had issues with me being around his daughter because he was threatened by the relationship that was forming.
Also, my friend’s ex had a kid that always wanted to sleep in his mom’s bed and that would be a problem for me. I want all the perks that come with a grown-up relationship.” “A lot of my friends are divorced and one guy even has a kid after a one-night stand.
Once a woman is a mother, she is less reluctant to avoid pregnancy.
She may WANT her child(ren) to have a sibling, and you don’t want to end up being Daddy.
Even if you’re just dating her and don’t want to get married, if the father(s) of the child(ren) is/are in the picture, that is likely going to be even more of a hassle for you.
Even if a biodad isn't in the picture right now, he can always resurface and wreak havoc unless he's dead.
A woman without a child has much more freedom to be available for you.
An unmarried mother should put her child(ren) first.
Conversely, here are the downsides of dating a single mother, in no particular order:1) The kid(s) will always come first for her, and that’s the way it should be.
If the child likes you, if you’re nice to the child, that’s no insurance against false accusations. These children are more likely to have mental and emotional problems.
Social workers know that children in these situations are more likely to be abused by their mother’s lovers, so they’ll be more likely to believe you are a culprit.
This is not saying that having a child isn’t worth it, but this is not about YOU having a child. Her body was changed by something that is of no benefit to you.6) You don’t want to be a father.
She has demonstrated already that she doesn’t know how to effectively use contraception OR otherwise doesn’t make good choices because she made children with the wrong guy (most likely)*, and has demonstrated that she WANTS to be a mother as she kept the child.